How to identify destructive behaviours that will be causing relationship or marriage problems?
At Positive Wellbeing Psychology, our psychologists have a special interest in supporting individuals to improve interpersonal relationships and interpersonal functioning. In this article we explore common behaviours that exist in relationships, found in John and Julie Gottman’s research to predict divorce in married couples. One behaviour found to be extremely damaging overtime includes - harsh “startup” in the discussion with your loved one, this includes: The research by John and Julie Gottman has found that a conversation startup has a significant impact on the outcome of the conversation and overtime the relationship. The statistics found that 96% of the time, you can predict the outcome of a conversation based on the first three minutes of the interaction. When the discussion leads with a criticism and/or sarcasm (a form of contempt), it reflects the “harsh startup”. A harsh startup will inevitably end on a negative note. In time, this will push the individuals further a...